Pride Makes You A Douchebag!!!!!

According to the urban dictionary, a douche bag is a fellow with inflated ego that rates himself far above his worth; simply put it as: people repellant! Now, a story to illustrate the douche bag.

I saw a movie series about a girl, we will call her Tessie. Tessie was conceived on the night of her parents’ high school prom. Her parents got carried away by the thrill of graduating from high school and the hype of the night, had unprotected sex and the girl was conceived.. Her father, we will call him Jade, who was a quarter back in the school’s football team denied the pregnancy, so her mother, Anne, who was the valedictorian of the year had to go through the pain of the rejection and the stress of the pregnancy alone, bore the child and gave her up for adoption. 16years later, the girl reappeared at the door of Jade’s house, asking him to sign some papers for her to be free from foster care. At this time, the Jade was 30+, neither went to the university nor had a professional football career and was running a not-flourishing bar, while the Anne was a famous and successful radio presenter; they both decided to be responsible parents now that the girl found them and decided to transfer Tessie to their high school. This action brought memories to Jade, seeing his high school awards and pictures of him on the pitch sent him into deep thoughts and he said “some people reach their peak in high school”. He simply became a douche bag after his fame as a quarter back in his high school football team. He thought he had reached the peak of his life, he had no idea of the downward spiral his life was about to go until 16years after when he took his daughter to the same school.

 It is not funny when you reach your peak in high school when your life is meant to be just starting!  The question becomes what happened? How did “what” happen? As teenagers with relatively few experiences in life, it is easy to get carried away with success and start feeling superior to other mates; this is an onset of pride! It might not even be as a result of a success, it might be the financial status of parents, their car, house, neighborhood, your cloths, etc. anything at all that makes you as if you are superior to your mates. Once you are proud, you act like everyone else should worship you and pay you royalties for being around them, you may even ask them for sacrificial offerings before you can be their friend. This makes you repulsive to potential friends and this qualifies as a douche bag!

An old adage says pride comes before a fall, what does this mean, how does it apply?!       

                     

For you to be proud/arrogant means you see yourself as being at the peak of your desire, your dream, your goals, your aspiration, you see no one as a competition or of any additional value to you and somehow, you get comfortable with the spot you are at and you start to get stagnated; but in life nothing remains stagnant, you are either going up or coming down. Getting stagnated marks the beginning of a fall. Always remember, as a teenager, your life is just beginning, getting stagnated at that point is no option, so, you cannot afford to be a douche bag and you cannot afford to rest on your oars. Becoming a douche bag at this point means you base yourself and life worth on some ephemeral items which you can work to improve and make permanent or better still, an item which you did not work for e.g. your father’s wealth. The douche bag mentality makes you grow up subconsciously not being able to create your own wealth or maintain your father’s wealth, which, means you are only preparing for a bleak future. While your mates are busy working hard to improve their lives, you are busy gloating over yourself; all you need is to blink and you will see them fly past and above you.  If Bill Gates had been a douche bag, maybe he would not have been friends with Steve Job, may be there would not have been fine fonts for Micro Soft today, remember, they were both brilliant and in the same business, but Steve was broke; if Barack Obama did not have the right words and attitude for people, maybe he would not have been the president of the USA today, just may be. 

Never look at yourself like you are on top of the world or look down on other people, always remember, as a teenager, your life is just starting, people are bundles of potentials and you need the right attitude to tap them, else, you will be left alone like stagnant water that can only stink and breed mosquitoes.

Remember, you belong to a royal tribe, the pride of today, the joy of the futureJ.

Going Whitney With Your Kids?!!!

I saw a movie where Tyler Perry had a drug addict as his wife and the mother of his kids. The lady refused to seek for help as her drug and alcohol addiction got worse and deteriorated her life. Tyler decided to do away with her and allowed her minimal access to the kids. I saw this as rather unfair and mean to both the mum and the kids, I forgot there is something called “influence” which parents have on kid. That was a movie I saw, but, I read about the real life drama of late Whitney Houston and I understood Tyler’s moves and intentions.

Bobbi Kristina Brown

Krissi with a friend

Whitney Houston was survived by an 18year old daughter, Bobbi Kristina Brown, who is apparently following her mother’s troubled footsteps as she was photographed snorting a white powder said to be cocaine. A shock report claims that the late Whitney Houston and her teenage daughter Bobbi Kristina shared the same drug dealer.  An insider alleges that Whitney's 18-year-old daughter was also being given drugs and alcohol by that man, unknown to her mother.
 Bobbi Kristina ‘Krissi’ Brown, 18, is well aware of the dangers of drugs. Her mother’s career was blighted by addiction and her father, singer Bobby Brown, has also needed rehab treatment.

The teenager’s former boyfriend, who took the pictures, claims she too is addicted to cocaine. A year ago Bobbi's ex-boyfriend of more than two years was so concerned that he spoke to the media about her growing cocaine addiction that he says is due, in part, to her parents enabling her habits. Singer Whitney Houston was said to be supporting her daughter over the drug allegations.

‘I’ve tried to stop her,’ he said. ‘But all she said was, “I’m just like my mother!”
. ‘Whitney needs to see what her daughter is doing to herself. If Krissi doesn’t stop soon, this addiction to cocaine will kill her.’ An article in National Enquirer magazine claimed she regularly indulges in marijuana and ‘guzzles beer and gets smashed on potent grain alcohol’. A shock new report claims that the late Whitney Houston and her teenage daughter Bobbi Kristina shared the same drug dealer.

 

Culled from MailOnline.

It is actually easier to see the spec in other peoples’ eyes, even when we have a log in ours. With Whitney being a superstar, her life is easy to watch and criticize, but can we as parents check our lives and see the damages our children have picked for us. A child’s first contact and role models are usually the parents. As a kid, I remember watching my dad pick his nose with his index finger, I thought it was stylish (I was a kid), so I copied him until out of the blues, I was called a dirty girl!!!! WHAT?!

Children ignorantly and subconsciously copy their parents in speech, attitude, behavior and character; some are even religious about this copying as to them, no one can be smarter than their parents. What they see you do, they will proudly display to everyone around.

Ask yourself, if my daughter behaves like me, would I be proud of her, if my son does somethings I do, would I be happy? Krissis is said to have been on drugs for four years and her mother’s pleas and cry were not able to convince her to go to the rehab. Think about yourself and the legacy you would leave your kids with, would it build or destroy their future?

The ball is in your court, your children are your joy, but you could make them otherwise if you are not careful.

GOING WHITNEY WITH YOUR LIFE?!

Whitney Houston (August 9, 1963 – February 11, 2012) was an American recording artist, actress, producer and model. In 2009, the Guinness World Records cited her as the most-awarded female act of all-time. Houston was one of the world's best-selling music artists, having sold over 170 million albums, singles and videos worldwide. She released seven studio albums and three movie soundtrack albums, all of which have diamond, multi-platinum, platinum or gold certification. Houston is the only artist to chart seven consecutive No. 1 Billboard Hot 100 hits. She is the second artist behind Elton John and the only female artist to have two number-one Billboard 200 Album awards (formerly "Top Pop Album") on the Billboard magazine year-end charts. Her second studio album Whitney (1987) became the first album by a female artist to debut at number one on the Billboard 200 albums chart. Hmn..... that is a whole lot, she really was great.

As a teenager (at age 14), Whitney sang as a backup singer for various artists and was also one of the most sought after teenage models. She released her first album at the age 22 and her life stepped on an escalator of success and international prominence. During this time, the she appeared at a concert for Nelson Mandela's birthday and founded the Whitney Houston Foundation for children.

In the beginning

hmmnn....

By 1992, Whitney Houston was on top of the world, but her life was about to get very complicated very quickly. That year she married the R&B singer Bobby Brown (ouch!), who would go on to have several run-ins with the law, including some jail time. At first the marriage was passionate and loving, but things turned sour as the years progressed as both Brown and Houston battled substance abuse and increasingly erratic behavior. With her marriage came drug abuse, this lead to a change in her attitude which degenerated her career.  She lived a life of drug use, lifestyle excesses and bad behaviors, sinking reputation to new lows. 

Houston tried to ignore the controversies, went ahead with her music by releasing a new album, Just Whitney… to combat her detractors, but it did not match the success of her earlier works. This made her declining career became more obvious to all. 

Cracked out Whitney

Don't do drug!!!!!!

She divorced her husband in 2007 and took a break from her career, all in a bid to salvage her life and resuscitate her dying career. She made a comeback in 2009 having been out of the rehab and released a new album. Whitney Houston died on February 11, 2012, in Los Angeles. According to a report released by the Los Angeles County coroner's office on March 22, 2012, the official cause of her death was accidental drowning, effects of heart disease and cocaine found in her system were contributing factors. With her passing, the music world has lost one of its most legendary stars.

Pretty and Clean Whitney.....hmn.....

As at the time of her death, she was report been broke and lived on hand out from her friends. Some even said all she had left was $29,000 and $8M in assets.

Multi-talented Whitney.......

MORALS from her life.

She worked at the back ground for 8years, building and perfecting her career, enjoyed instant success and fame for some more years and even sang for kings, only for her to get married to a wrong husband that almost ended her career. Wrong association!!!!!

An error she committed!

 The question for you is: Who is your friend?! Remember, their union was beautiful and rosy until a while later.  If you have a friend with negative habits, but you feel you cannot be influenced or you feel you do not have to part ways with such a friend; just know in a little while, you would be influenced and it could do damage to your life. It is funny to see that the man that introduced Whitney to drugs is still alive, while she is dead!. That is just life; your friend might survive some negatives, while you get dealt with by these wrong habits.

Yes, Whitney stopped using drugs, but the ones she had in the past had already done damage to her health, which eventually led to her death. You might say, you want to indulge in some wrong habits and after a little while, you will quit and live a clean life. What if these habits do damage that will hunt your bright and beautiful future?! I am sure no one wants his future to be hunted, so why bother to indulge?!

 How could someone with Whitney’s profile die broke? Remember, she was into drugs and plenty of alcohol, aside from the side effects on your health; they do a lot of draining to your pocket. Drugs and alcohol as habits take charge of you and simply control your senses. They dictate to you to spend your money on them. There are stories of people who sold their properties including their inheritances, just to buy drugs. Whitney lost a lot of contracts and concerts just because she lost control of her life; she was either going late or missing rehearsals and having uncontrollable erratic behaviors. Definitely, I'm not sure anyone would like to do business with such a person. 

In conclusion, watch the company you keep, they can either make you or mare you. As a lot of people would say and I join them to say:  don’t do drugs. Be in control of your life, don’t let chemical do that for you. 

Remember, your future is bright, beautiful and great.

xoxo………………………..

R.I.P. Whitney Houston

8-A1 in WAEC, SERIOUSLY?

Yes, I know it is not new, but in recent years, SSCE results have been reported as poor, with less than 50% of the candidates having less than a credit pass in Mathematics and English Language. I remembered in 1999, WAEC announced its candidate with the best result which was 8-A1 and 1-A2. I was not able to reach that particular candidate, but I was able to catch up with someone else that had the same result that same year to share with us how he was able to achieve this. He had 8-A1 including Mathematics, English Language, Physics, Chemistry and Biology and 1-A2 in Additional Mathematics

Dr. Jide Oresegun

 My name is Oresegun Olajide, I am a Medical doctor, I grew up in Abeokuta, Ogun State where I attended Ogun International Montessori Nursery &Primary School, Idi-Aba and later proceeded to the prestigious Abeokuta Grammar School, Idi-Aba, Abeokuta, Ogun State. I grew up in a Christian family set up and under a serene, loving but disciplined atmosphere back in Abeokuta. I was a member of the Scripture Union, the Literary & Debating and School QUIZ team. I was fortunate to have studious and godly friends who positively influenced me and kept my negative tendencies at bay (meaning he had negative tendencies too, lolzzzz)! 

Yes, I did have a defiant period when I felt my parents are old fashioned and could not match up with what is in vogue, so they should not tell me what to do.  I think every teenager passes through this period of “I know it all”, “no one can rule/ control me attitude”; this happens when our hormones run riot, it is a phase and it would pass. It took a lot of humility and the grace of God to pass through this period; my hormones were simply in control. It took me to sit and ask myself what I wanted for my future and how my present way of life could lead me to my future dreams, that was when I realized  I was already in the wrong path. Yes, I might want to blame it on hormonal surges, yes, but I had to take control of the surges and tailor it into the path I wanted for my future and today, I’m happy I made the decision. Know that your parents would not want anything bad for you, their job as your custodian is to show you the right path, so, please, be calm, listen to them and make sense out of their words. Their words are golden.

By the grace of God, I was able to have an SSCE result of 8-A1s and 1-A2. I ensured I had brilliant and focused friends. Yes, I studied real hard, read every subject back to back, played less during the day so that I could have strength to study in the night and God simply crowned my efforts.  

Excelling takes first of all, the mercy and favor of GOD, diligence (had to attend all my classes and had extra lessons, good notes, tutorials, studious and encouraging friends) and support from parents (money for textbooks, lessons, school fees etc).

Life at the medical school was quiet stressful, with too much to learn and little time! But God was faithful. I must confess, I was much of a 'triangular student' -Church-Class-Home person...but I had some periods of fun in-between.  
I was not all books, books and books. There were times I got bored and had to hang out with my friend. I had social friend who invited to events and all, but my friends were serious minded with good moral inclination, so, we can be sure we weren’t doing things that could damage or distract us. We went for birthday parties, but not all parties, we selected the ones we attended and return to our books. While in the secondary school or anytime I was home with my parents, I would ask for their permission before attending any event. All the party and function attending were all within limits and no late night crawling.

Being a medical doctor had always been my childhood dream and excelling at school was strictly tied to a rigorous work schedule. That helped to curb some negative youthful tendencies. Being a born-again Christian with watchful parents also contributed in no small measure in handling the opposite sex, not forgetting the ever-saving grace of GOD.

I do not regret giving myself to studying; it’s an investment from which I will by the grace of God continue to reap dividends.

I will advise teenagers to stay focused and invest in knowledge. I realized that although some people are born geniuses, the rest of us are born kind with almost equal brain, it is now left to us as individual to develop the brain and talent God has given to us, how well you stimulate your brain accounts for the differences in individuals. When it comes to learning in school, the amount of time you devout to real studying determines how well you will do in your academics, since we did not come to school after having a full knowledge of the subjects from home, we all came blank to learn from school. There is no way to learn without reading. Improve the time to spend with your book, devout more time to study, drop your bb, ignore the TV, hide the video games, close facebook, sign out of twitter and let your friends rest while your study. Give your study time your full concentration, all the other stuffs can definitely wait.

A lot of teenagers want to get rich in a hurry, even at the expense of going to school. Well, I would say this is you getting your priorities wrong. We have learning years and earning years. Teen stage is learning years, cool down with the earning thoughts, you watch reality show where huge amount of money is won, that is fine,  but come to think of I , how many people enter for these shows and how many of them eventually win? You cannot base your life on chances!  Some even go into internet fraud, the truth is “what you do with your brain and hands is what would last with and for you, the rest others are not durable, they cannot stand the test of time.” This would make you stand confident among your peers. Maximize your learning years, learn all you can and then you can step into the earning years armed with knowledge to solve world problems. You can be sure you will be better chanced as you pick the offers you feel most comfortable with.

Form meaningful friendships, have friends that can challenge and motivate you to study, learn meaningful and impactful things, friends that can help you develop your potentials in the positive directions and not just talk about fashion, movies, opposite sex, etc . But friends that will challenge you to get more knowledge, to study more and to get better grades. Sacrifices are also needed; you might have to lose some sleep to cover up shaky grounds. Should you be weak with any subject, go for extra moral classes, they help. For the sake of standardized examinations, e.g. SSCE, SAT, GCE, you need to work with the curriculum.

The get-rich-quick schemes that abound nowadays don't lead to enduring success. 
Maximize your gifts and talents? YES; compromise your education? NO. 
Keep the passion for academic excellence aglow and you won’t regret it!

With God on your and you playing your part, you will surely do well.